Oh my god have the terrible two’s hit for you? Your 4yr old or fivenagers Tantrums driving you up the wall? Or maybe your 8yr old going on 15 is stroppy and throwing adolescent tantrums which replicate the likes of Kevin from Harry Enfield? If they have, don’t panic, grab a coffee, a cup of tea or even a gallon of wine or gin and I will share with you How to Deal with you Toddlers Tantrums in 7 Simple & Easy Steps.
So in today’s post our aim is to help you with your toddlers or childrens tantrums. Hopefully we can say TTFN (ta ta for now) to your toddlers embarrassing meltdowns in aisle 5 of Asda because they can’t eat the cheese string they so desperately need or the world will end. Even how about the uncontrollable throwing themselves on the floor kicking and screaming in a tired fit of rage because they don’t want to walk any further.
It is ok, we are all parents here, we have been here done it and gone as red as a tomato from embarrassment because of it. So we will look into the following 7 Simple & Easy steps below to help you deal and cope with your toddlers/children’s tantrums.
How to Deal with your Toddlers/Children’s Tantrums in 7 Simple & Easy Steps
- Show them plenty of Positive Attention, showing negative is like adding fuel to a fire.
- Try to give them some control over little things.
- Keep off-limits items out of sight and reach of young children.
- Distract them.
- Help them learn new skills and succeed.
- Consider the request carefully when your child asks/wants something.
- Know your child’s limits.
So there we have it, 7 Simple & Easy steps to deal with a toddlers tantrums, maybe your older children’s tantrums even. Hope this helps…..
Nah I wouldn’t leave you like that, what with a screaming toddler in the car park at Tesco all because you refuse to carry your child due to your hands being occupied by 15 carrier bags of weekly Big shop.
No we will cover those 7 steps next in a little more detail and with some more explanation behind them.
The 7 Simple steps Explained
Lets take a look at these 7 steps and enlighten you all with how these can work for you and putting them into practice and how to deal with temper tantrums with your toddler or children.
1 – Show them plenty of Positive Attention.
This is pretty much common sense really, we know once our toddler has hit defcon 5 their isn’t much you can do to calm them down or improve the situation. It can feel like you are negotiating with terrorists at times but one thing we shouldn’t do is be negative towards them. I know I know it’s easier said than done when your tired and stressed, physically and mentally drained but being shouty, snappy or stressful with your approach is just going to add fuel to the fire and make it burn more. What we want here is a positive attitude and positive approach, they will soon begin to calm down.
2 – Try to give them some control over little things.
Lets say your out shopping for example, they ask you if you can get a certain favourite snack such as a packet of chocolate biscuits they love. You put them in the trolley as any parent or person would do. They want to hold them but you won’t let them, big time meltdown. Your say 3 year old tantrums. All they want to do is hold them, what’s the big issue, there isn’t, it is only minor and causing something unnecessary so just allow them to do it. Saves more of a meltdown and tantrum doesn’t it.
3 – Keep off-limits items out of sight and reach of young children.
We all know what toddlers are like, whether they are 18 months, 2 years or even 3 years. Christ I have had a 5 year old that used to be like it. There is something they want but they know they can’t have it. Oh my they hate that don’t they. Especially when they are around 2 years of age and everything is MINE!!! Well simple fix to this, keep things like this out of sight and reach. Like the old saying, out of sight out of mind.
4 – Distract them.
This one is easier said than done sometimes. Let us use the Hangry scenario. We all know it we have all experienced it at some point or another. The almighty tantrum because they don’t want to wait for their food to cook and they want it now this very second. When something like this happens, try and distract them. Avert their attention. Try to offer the, a book to look through, sit with toys with them for a moment and play with your child while their food cooks. Even attempt with something they like on the TV. Anything to offer a distraction away from whats causing the tantrum.
5 – Help them learn new skills and succeed.
This one could be tricky depending on their age but say your 3 year old toddler is throwing a wobbler because they cannot do something. Sit with them, help them to learn so they can do it properly and correct. whether it’s a jigsaw puzzle or how to draw a certain shape. Give lots of positive encouragement and help them to succeed and achieve a goal or target.
6 -Consider the request carefully when your child asks/wants something.
I know I can be a bit of a sucker for this one. Straight jumping the gun after they have asked you a question or told you something they want and immediately without thinking, like your on auto-pilot a negative answer flows from the tip of your tongue. Thus causing a volcanic eruption from within your toddler which in tow bellows high pitched screams and looks of disgust. Take a moment to think about the question or request. Process it in your mind, weigh up the pros and cons before jumping the gun and answering them. What harm can it do other than them waiting a few seconds for the answer.
7 – Know your child’s limits.
You know your child best. You know when they are pushing it too far with their temper tantrum. Where they get to the point where you just have to put them to bed, or your getting close to explosion point. I know some toddlers when they have been running on full power in tantrum mode for long enough they make themselves sick. Ah sorry… I never thought you who may be reading this may be an expecting or new parent, doing a bit of parental research, learning the tricks of the parenting trade early. Well this is parenting, it can happen. But we just accept it and keep moving forward trying to do what is best for our child/children.
So there we have it. 7 Simple & Easy Steps to Help Deal with your Toddlers Tantrums. If you want more parenting advice why not check out some of my previous posts below.
Here is Some useful information for you on toddler tantrums.
And here you can find a Parents guide to temper tantrums.