Mens Mental Health

Mental health men and fathers

Mental Health – Men and Fathers.

Mental Health in men is a thing and it is a lot more common than you may think. I myself struggle with my mental health. I want to share with you all to share men’s mental health awareness. The mental health struggles for us men and dad’s.

A picture of myself, normal looking. You'd never know I suffer with mental health.
This is me, does it look like I suffer with my mental health?

To some I may look like a normal every day guy. A Dad you would see playing with his kids at the park. A bloke going about his day. You wouldn’t think looking at me that I suffer with my own mental health. That I am depressed. That I am that anxious about being out in public that I want to disappear and shut myself away out of fear of being judged.

Mental Health -The tolls of life.

Life in general is hard and difficult. Even more so when you have children. Being a father or mother or even a carer is one of the most challenging jobs we will have. Maybe the most challenging but certainly the most rewarding.

Family life does take a massive toll. It is stressful and hard work. Without proper self care we can risk an effect on our mental health and burnout. We have to look after ourselves not only for us but for our family too. Take a look at this post of mine 5 Self Care Tips for Dad’s.

How my mental health is at the moment.

It’s been hit and miss really. I’ve covered a bit about my own mental health in previous posts regarding Depression and anxiety. I’m not sure why I have not opened up more about it. I think subconsciously I haven’t because of my own anxiousness and negative feelings.

The depression is debilitating and difficult to deal with. It’s a constant feeling of being tired. Absolutely zero motivation to do anything. It feels like your stuck in a place filled with dark skies and fog and you can’t see how you can get out.

This feeling then triggers off my anxiousness. I feel nervous that I’m getting to this point again. I worry about why I have got like this and how am I going to sort myself out and get back on track.

An image to showcase mental health.
Mental Health is important.

Lockdown has had a massive impact.

I know many parents and people are struggling in lockdown. It’s a very difficult and unnerving situation. Trying to manage day to day life especially for us with 4 children at home. Home Schooling them when we are not teachers is very hard. Each of the kids have their own needs and with a toddler in the mix it makes it a lot more tricky.

I have worried slightly about lockdown and the Coronavirus. Obviously with my partner Sarah being classed as high risk. I have worried about the negatives of what may happen if she was to catch it. What if one of the kids caught it or even me.

It’s very hard times and I think finally after 11 weeks it is taking it’s toll.

Mental Health – Men and fathers

For us men and fathers. We like to think we are the strongest. The rock of a family, the load bairer and problem hoarder. We are stubborn and proud.

So proud and stubborn that sometimes we won’t open up to how we are feeling. We won’t share our problems with others or loved ones in fear of appearing weak. We like to portray ourselves as the stronger ones.

It is ok though to speak up about how you are feeling. Your partner or family members are there to help and support you. To share the load of your problems or struggles. There is no need to struggle on your own. Help is out there for those that want it.

Speak out about your mental health.

Just a couple of weeks after lockdown began, I started to worry a lot quite frequently and I felt very low. So low I found myself not being able to enjoy the extra time I was having with my children and family.

My low feelings were also emphasised by not seeing my eldest daughter. We have been shielding and locked down which has meant my usual weekend contact with her hasn’t been possible. I miss her a lot, I even wrote a Message to my Daughter which you can read Here. I had a phone consultation with my regular GP and spoke with them how I was feeling.

For the moment I take anti depressants and have been for over a year now. They do help but they are not an instant fix to mental health problems. My usual dose up until before lockdown was 100mg Sertraline. But since speaking with my GP they advised me that I should try a higher dose. Which has now meant I am taking 150mg Sertraline.

Me with my Anti depressants, sertraline.

It has helped massively, especially while we have been in lockdown. Just the past couple of days upto writing this post have been rough. This post has been a great way to put down how I’m feeling.

Writing down how you are feeling can help. It’s like a release and a way of expressing yourself.

Mental Health -Think of yourself.

One piece of advice I will offer is not to suffer in silence. Seek out help and talk with your loved ones if you are not feeling yourself. Make sure you do certain things for you and to look after yourself.

The worst we can do is let our struggles with mental health get in the way of living and enjoying what is around us.

This page from the NHS mental health Here is incredibly helpful.

The calm Zone is a men’s mental health charity that has lots of useful information to help those who suffer with mental health problems. You can visit The Calm Zone Here

There are many other online sources for help, advice and information regarding Men’s mental health. I will list a few below. Also keep an eye on my Blog Facebook page Yorkie… Not Just For Dad’s. Also my Instagram account as I will be sharing Content relevant to Men’s Mental Health Awareness week – 15th – 21st June 2020.

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46 Thoughts to “Mens Mental Health”

  1. Well done for being so open and honest Eddie, it’s never easy but you should be proud of yourself. I’m sure all your girls are x

  2. It’s great to get this out there to help others and hopefully it helped to write and publish it too 🙂

    1. It is one thing I find that helps alot is to write it down. The amount of post drafts I’ve had and deleted 😂.

  3. Great post! Slowly men’s mental health is getting noticed more, but there’s a lot more
    to do. The more the message is put out there, the better.

    Sertraline made me ill, so I’m on citalopram and have been for 3 years now.

    1. Thanks for commenting Adam. I completely agree. The message out there is slow but its getting there. I was the opposite. I couldn’t get over headaches and nausia with citalopram, but the sertraline works for me.

  4. What a great blog – I talk about about motherhood and anxieties and I am so happy you are covering this. We need more of this !

    1. Thank you. I think its a message that needs to be spread and shared for fellow dads and men.

  5. Very brave of you to speak out Eddie. Many wouldn’t and as you say, men are raised to carry the load and to be silent, stoic. it’s hardly surprising men’s mental health is so appalling when we load that kind of pressure on guys, ridiculous actually. And yes, we have all been impacted by lockdown. Anyone who says they haven’t has probably not been following the guidance. Hope you get to see your daughter soon.

    1. Thank you John.

  6. survivethekidz

    Thanks for sharing your story. Lockdown has been difficult for many and I can empathize with not seeing your kid for a while. We really miss my stepson.

    1. It definitely hasn’t been easy. I think being in lockdown so long it is definitely taking a toll now.

  7. Thanks for being so open and honest. Lockdown’s been a rough ride, but I’m happy to see that you spoke up and managed to get some help. Keep up all the hard work 🙂

    1. Thank you. Yeah it has been rough.

  8. Great that you are able to share as it will help so many other men. The awareness of mens mental health is better but still a lot need to be done.

    1. It is a lot better than what it used to be. Thank you

  9. A great post about this topic! Open and honest. So important to voice these issues!

  10. Thank you for being so open and honest with us. It’s not often you hear men, let alone fathers, being so vocal about their mental health and it’s definitely something that we need to see more of.

    1. Thank you. I’d like to be more open about the subject even if it means helping other men and fathers do the same. To help others and to raise awareness.

  11. Important!!! Men barely open up but thank you for this

    1. I agree more need to be more open with the subject and seek help and advice.

  12. Thank you for speaking out about these issues! I think in a time where we are all stuck in the same environment with the same people, those of us with pre-existing mental health issues, and those who may not have experienced these issues in the past but are now, are struggling more than ever and it can be particularly difficult when you feel you can’t share how you’re really feeling, especially with society painting a view of men have to be seen as strong, not weak. I think you are strong to be able to speak so openly about this and thank you for sharing such an honest opinion

    1. Thank you. That’s what I would like to do, is help to show we don’t have to hide how we are feeling and we can admit that we are struggling.

  13. The fact that you’re brave enough to talk about it will stand you in good stead going forward. It can happen to anyone so I wish more people are open about it. Wish you the very best.

    1. Thank you. It really can and hits you sometimes when you least expect it.

  14. Brilliant post Eddie! Thank you for sharing so openly, it is really important that people talk about this to normalise it.

    We need to be aware of mental health in men because their silence can be fatal.

    I’m glad your GP was able to help you x

    1. My GP has been very helpful, not only with advice but sympathy also. I agree. I’m a part of a couple of Dad groups on Facebook and the number of men and suicide due to mental health is crazy.

  15. Well done for speaking out about this! I hope you are okay!

    1. Thank you. Yeah I’m doing ok thanks.

  16. Karen Dennis

    Thanks for bringing this important topic to our attention, hope you are doing well now#thatfridaylinky@_karendennis

    1. I’m not doing too bad thank you.

  17. It’s really great that you speak out about this – so important. I’m sure you must help so many people 🙂 #thatfridaylinky

  18. This is such important information to get out there as I know more men also have your same issues. I am glad you have this forum as getting those feelings out on paper I hope helps you as well. Stay strong and keep writing!

    1. Thank you, writing about it really does help. If been open about my mental health can help other men, then I know I’m doing something right.

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  25. Thank you for writing the post. It can’t have been easy but what a great step you took in getting your feelings down and then out, for others to read and relate to. I had never considered what impact having children on your mental health could have. I am not a mother or guardian. I am an aunty but I know I can give the little munchkins back to their rightful owners. But I should imagine bringing children up is a difficult task – the care, protection, the need to make sure that they mental health is sound and making sure that you are doing everything to be a brilliant parent…its a weight. We are sure you are a fantastic parent, just the very fact that you are writing about it means you are thinking about it and so your actions must reflect how great you are. You just have to believe that. Keep talking, keep writing, keep being creative. There is no judgement, only great thanks for sharing and love to keep you going. Happy New Year pal x

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