Depression, anxiety and other mental health issues are more and more common in this modern day. I actually never realised how common this was. I went for years feeling down and alone like I was in a dark room with no way out. My GP helped and so did my fiance when I finally opened up about my struggle with depression and anxiousness. Still to this day, I have good days and bad days. But for us Dads/Men it’s difficult to open up and be honest about the way we are feeling with our mental health. The thought of it being a sign of weakness, a feeling of failure, especially for a father who has little eyes closely watching and learning from how you portray yourself. A loving partner who relies on you and to lean on you for help and support.
Well that support is there for us too! We don’t have to battle it alone. Our partners are there to do the same for us, an ear to listen to, a shoulder to cry on. A sturdy rock for us to lean on when we are feeling weak. We are not failing, it’s just a set back. Step back, regroup and come back fighting stronger.
These last few weeks have been hard for me, and to be open and honest it’s starting to take its toll. Constant feeling of being tired, the negative and worrying thoughts constantly rolling around your head. Stress levels are high, tight chest feeling and the horrible nautious butterflies in the pit of your stomach. The horrible feeling of failing and dreading the negative reactions from your failures. Dread of what’s to come next rather than looking forward of what good is to come.
The past few weeks.
Past few weeks, we’ve had the kids poorly as I mentioned in my previous post “Dropping Like Flies“. Well Ellie and Charlotte are now so full of cold. Constant snotty noses and flem, a simple cough can set them off being sick.
Bless them, but it’s my fiance Sarah, she’s having a tough time at the moment. She is working part time and also attending university around that to achieve her end goal of her dream career. But she fell a couple of weeks back and badly sprained her ankle. This means she has been struggling with that. Further back in October she was in hospital for a week or so with Pneumonia. For her it could have ended her life. Sarah suffers with asthma, quite bad asthmatic to be honest. The simplest of chest infection or a cold can really knock her for six.
We were back at the GP surgery with her on Monday as she had started to get tight chested and breathless. Also with pain in her ear and dizziness. Turns out she has a chest and ear infection. But with the treatment she received for the pneumonia she had, she shouldn’t be coming down with a chest infection not so long after. We were told if no improvement with her chest after 48-72hrs of antibiotics and steroids they want her to go for a chest X Ray to check that the previous infection actually went away.
Had recent events made my mental health worse?
Now for some they would just take all this on the chin and carry on and deal with the bad hand that life has dealt them at the moment. For me I find it hard, constant negative thoughts of what’s to come. What’s going to happen, especially with Sarah. She is my Best friend and Soul mate and I have no idea where I would be without her as my partner in crime. Struggling slightly with my depression through this past few weeks, but I know with support from people I have around me and to not let the negative thoughts triumph, everything will be ok.
So for fellow dads. Remember… #itsoknottobeok 😁 it’s OK to open up about how your feeling. Whether it is with your partner, girlfriend, fiance, husband or wife or even a friend down the pub. The people around us are there to support us and there is help out there from your local GP or other local services.
Help with mental health.
One great site I have found very helpful with info and advice on depression and anxiety is Mind. Check them out here. The NHS has a great source for helplines and other sources of information to help with your Mental health. Check that Here.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope myself being more open with my fight with mental health can possibly help others not to struggle alone and know that it’s OK to seek help or talk to someone about it. 😊👍