A look into the Life of a Stay at home Parent during a Pandemic.
The covid19 pandemic has hit everyone so hard this last year, but what is life as the Stay at home parent during a pandemic actually like? This is what we will be looking at in this post.
What is life as a stay at home parent during a pandemic like?
A lot of you who follow the Yorkie not just for Dads blog and also follow me on social media will know that I have been the full time Stay at home Dad with my girls for almost 2 years now.
I have been home with the girls, being the school run Dad, the main parent responsible for the housework whilst Sarah has been working and attending Uni doing her Nursing Degree.
This is no easy feat being the Stay at Home Dad, more so now with our youngest daughter Beast being a fully fledged toddler and embracing the terrible two’s!
Life is more challenging these days than back when I shared the stay at home Dad life with a one year old with you all.
Added into the mix of being the stay at home parent during a pandemic I have been the one to take on the role as teacher with Homeschooling the girls.
Having the kids around all day everyday has certainly added its challenges, it has meant the load of housework has increased tidying up after the hoard of girls we have in our household.
Constantly picking up toys, mountains of pyjamas in the washing basket because being honest, during this third lockdown it has been very rare that we have even got changed out of our pyjamas, but I mean why do kids leave everything strewn all over the place?
The massive increase in the weekly shopping budget. We all know what kids are like, especially when they are bored. They are hungry and growing kids and we constantly get the classic phrase of ‘Please Sir can we have some more.’
The parental stress at times has been through the roof, under the same roof with 4 kids that all want different things such as what to watch on TV has become the ignitor for fights. I mean this Tik Tok I made actually sums up dealing with parental stress at the moment.
The Mental Health battle of being the stay at home parent during a pandemic.
The subject of mental health, especially Depression and Anxiety is something I speak openly about in my posts on my blog. I went for years not speaking about the way I was feeling. But these days I find it easier to speak more openly and even find it helps massively.
My partner Sarah throughout all the lockdowns we have had and while being the stay at home parent during a pandemic has been an absolute rock for me in terms of support when I have found myself struggling.
There are services still available during the pandemic which can help support you with your mental health, some of these are even online based such as healing clouds, there is also still the option of visiting your GP and speaking with them about what you may be struggling with.
I’ve certainly had rough days during the pandemic where I haven’t even wanted to get out of bed, the anxiousness of starting another day of homeschooling expecting the worst, the whinging and lack of enthusiasm to get on with school work and learn about various subjects.
The homeschooling has been tough but we have made a few changes and settled into a nice routine which seems to be working well for us.
The fear of failure, being unsuccessful of teaching your children that certain adjective or mathematics calculation, the frustration of not being able to help them grasp the simpleist sound of phonics or times table.
All of this can get very overwhelming and trigger anxiety attacks and spiral you back into the depths of depression.
I have been taking note of how I am feeling and know when I am indeed getting low and need to step back. I mean even though it is half term this week, me and the girls ended up having the last 2 days off of school work last week.
Taking some of that time for myself for a spot of self care really does help you to wind down and relax a bit when things have been getting stressful and too much.
It is great being the stay at home Dad.
Being the stay at home dad throughout all of this has been amazing though, I have got to have an element of involvement in my children’s education. Something not many parents will ever get to do.
I have had the chance to find out and experience what subjects they enjoy and are passionate about learning more of.
The time spent together has been unimaginable, the bond between parent and child throughout this has been strengthened for sure, I know many of you will think the same too.
I hope this has been an interesting insight for you of what it has been like to be the stay at home parent during a pandemic. I can’t begin to imagine how difficult it is for those of you who are working from home as well as balancing parenting during a pandemic too.
I’m lucky in that respect that I don’t have to worry about work and possible deadlines and meetings while I’m at home as the stay at home Dad with the kids.
Are you a stay at home Mum or a stay at home Dad? How have you found life being the stay at home parent during a pandemic?